alphabet

 The Alphabet of Friendship

 (A)ccepts you as you are

 (B)elieves in 'you'

 (C)alls you sometimes just to cheer you up and say: ‘Hello!’

 (D)oesn't give up on you

 (E)nvisions the whole of you, even the hidden and unfinished parts

 (F)orgives your mistakes

 (G)ives unconditionally

 (H)elps you

 (I)nvites you into their life and space

 (J)ust accompanies you on our pathway through life

 (K)eeps you close at heart

 (L)oves you for who you are and not what you have

 (M)akes a difference in your life

 (N)ever Judges

 (O)ffers support

 (P)icks you up when you're down

 (Q)uiets your fears

 (R)aises your spirits

 (S)ays only good things about you

 (T)ells you the truth whenever this is necessary

 (U)nderstands you

 (V)alues you

 (W)alks beside you

 (X)-plains things you don't understand

 (Y)ells when you won't listen and

 (Z)aps you back to reality

weisheit

Weisheit für das Leben:

 

Eine alte Dame und ihre Vorurteile

 

Eines Abends machte eine alte Dame in einer Autobahnraststätte Halt.

Im Self-Service Bereich holte sie sich eine heiße Suppe und setzte sich allein an einen Tisch. Da bemerkte sie, dass sie vergessen hatte, Salz mit an den Tisch zu nehmen.

Sie stand auf, irrte ein wenig im Restaurant herum, bevor sie das Salz fand, und kehrte schließlich zu ihrem Tisch zurück. Dort saß ein Schwarzer, der den Löffel in die Suppe tauchte und sie langsam aß.
„Oha, ganz schön unverschämt, dieser  Schwarze!“, dachte sich die rechtschaffene Dame. „Dem werde ich Manieren beibringen!"

Doch sie setzte sich seitlich an den Tisch und ließ ihn barmherzig etwas von ihrer Suppe essen. Dann zog sie die Suppenschüssel etwas zu sich und versuchte, die Suppe zumindest mit ihm zu teilen.
Der Schwarze zog die Suppenschüssel wieder sanft zurück und aß weiter.

Wieder zog die Dame die Schüssel leicht in ihre Richtung, um ebenfalls ein paar Löffel abzubekommen. Und so löffelten die beiden die Suppe schließlich leer.

Daraufhin erhob sich der Schwarze, gab ihr mit einem Zeichen zu verstehen, dass sie sich gedulden sollte, und kam schließlich mit einer riesigen Portion Pommes Frites zurück, die er ebenso mit ihr teilte wie zuvor die Suppe.
Schließlich nickten sie sich zu und die Dame ging zur Toilette. Doch als sie an ihren Platz zurückkehrte und nach ihrer Tasche griff, musste sie feststellen, dass sie nicht mehr unter ihrem Stuhl  stand.

„Oh, ich hätte mich vor diesem Schwarzen in Acht nehmen sollen!"

Sie schrie „haltet den Dieb“ durch das ganze Restaurant, bis schließlich jemand ihre Tasche fand, die an einem Tisch lehnte, auf dem eine Schüssel mit einer kalt gewordenen Suppe stand....

Es war IHRE Schüssel, die niemand berührt hatte.
Sie hatte sich im Tisch geirrt und der Mann hatte sein Essen mit ihr geteilt!

kontakt

wenn denn einer will
dann kann er
wenn denn eine will
dann kann sie

egal wie groß
die distanz


immer
denke daran
"gute" gedanken zu haben

denke daran
die gedanken
bereiten den alltag

denke daran
das
was du willst
auch wenn es dir nicht bewusst ist
bekommst du auch

also lass dich
von der freude
in dir leiten
dahin
wo du dich wohlfühlst ......

der regenbogen ist in dir
der regenbogen ist um dich

spray my light in all the colours of the rainbow

and bless the you in me
and bless the me in you
and bless the each and every moment

blessed be

yellow types

YELLOW
STRENGTHS
Yellows mission in life is to make people happy. It is the one and only thing that they do in fact, take seriously. They believe life is meant to be lived and that everybody on the planet just needs to mellow out and be more like them: happy!
They are great communicators and coordinators of people and events. Yellow are highly interactive and make great networkers. They are great in sales, because they are so charismatic. They are charismatic because they just like all people.
Out of all of the colors, the yellows are the least likely to ever be prejudice about much of anything for that would drag their happy energy down, and they are very protective of their happiness and sunshiny dispositions.
Yellows just enjoy people and basically just see people as a forms of entertainment! Yellows are busy, busy socializers and networkers. They have a big job getting everybody on the planet happy, after all. This is their strength and they do it very well.
Yellows love being around people and any job description that has the word "social" on it! The keep things "light" and when something is very serious, or intense, it will be the yellow who pops the funny one-liner that gets everybody off track and laughing.
Yellows generally can be great comedians as well. They have the innate ability to take something awful and make it funny.
Yellows love making people happy.
Because yellows are so charismatic, they can also step into leadership roles very easily.

INTELLECT
A yellow has a very creative mind and unlike the green, yellows do not create within the confines of system. In fact, they are anything but systematic. Out of all the colors, the yellow is outside the proverbial BOX more than they are in the box. They create in a place just a level beyond the green's zone, known as THE GREAT OUT THERE!
Yes, THE GREAT OUT THERE is a fabulous place for the yellows to mentally play and create. Because of this, they are more likely to be your artists, your musicians, and any profession that requires the capacity to come up with new, out there, never been done before, ideas.
Yellows can recognize a yellow a mile away by that constant smile on their faces. They usually have big white teeth and when they smile, they make sure that every last tooth is shining through, just for others.

MOTTO:

IF IT'S NOT FUN, I'M NOT DOING IT!

Yellows clearly have the leadership qualities of a Tom Sawyer. Remember when he was supposed to be painting the fence white. One by one, he had convinced all the children in the neighborhood that he was having the most fun of anyone getting to paint that fence white and before long, they were all painting the fence and he was sitting there watching and smoking his pipe! This however, while innovative, if not genius, can be problematic when working with other personality styles.


PROBLEMATIC AREA
Most yellows are probably thinking right now; what problem? We don't have any problems, right? Well maybe you don't, but other colors have some problems with you!
This may be a difficult concept for a yellow, but it's true, there are some areas that it would certainly help make a few more people more happy if you were to attend to.
Yellows tend to get a little bit D  I  S  T  R  A  C  T  E  D!
They are the color that thinks they can do ten things at once, but really can't.
Yellows prefer to work in what is known as FREE FORM WORK ENVIRONMENT.
What does that mean? A yellow knows exactly what it means! It means, when it gets done, it gets done.
Yellows will get things done, but it most likely will not be on the time frame that any of the other colors would follow. That's not how they operate and that's not how they are neurologically wired.
They are intellectually wired differently than the other three colors, and that's exactly why they are creative and solution generating.
You will often hear a yellow say that they do in fact believe that they work best under pressure. However, as a yellow it is important to understand that it hurts your credibility and your team participation, not to take this more seriously.
To be a good team player you will want to work on your focus, being tuned in during meetings and being time conscious when it comes to projects. Because people are waiting on you and need you to do your part in a timely fashion. Turn it into something fun, and you won't be so resistant to what you perceive are the negative aspects to the more orderly personality styles.

LITTLE QUIRK

Yellows agree that their little quirk(eigenart) is that they;

JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO PERK DOWN ("abmuntern:)")

And many in our world, would just like to wipe that smile right off their face. Yellows just don't get it that some people just don't want to be happy, let alone, all of the time, OK. Yellows will say, "But we're so happy. We will undoubtedly live longer than anybody else."
Invariably a yellow comes along, brightly and cheerfully says,
"Oh, now you get a smile on that face!"
Or
“Don’t worry, be happy!”

What we want to do is not only learn about ourselves, but also start thinking about the style that is most difficult to deal with and communicate to.
When we learn about our own style and how it depicts not only what we highly value, but how we think and integrate information, then we begin to understand why we are not on the same wave length verbally and intellectually as some one who has entirely different values and thinking processes.
For starters, people with similar tendencies are most compatible with one another socially. That's because those with common interests, habits and approaches help reinforce each other's self-esteem. In the work arena when it comes to tasks --whether it's doing a project at work, purchasing materials or determining the budget --the dynamics differ dramatically.
For example, Reds and Yellows share an outward focus and often similar interests. Blues and Greens, on the other hand are both inward oriented and may like the same kinds of activities. Both Yellows and Blues aspire to be in a supportive relationship. Usually, though, it's the Blue who's in the giving role and trying to make peace and the Yellow who's trying to get everybody to "lighten-up" and have some fun!
Meanwhile, the "I want it and I want it now" directive Reds and Yellows commonly find it hard to develop rapport with the quiet, focused and internally driven Blues and Greens who are less decisive and driven toward external rewards. And the Blues and Greens, in turn, find the Reds less desirable because they're too pushy, too loud and often too bossy in their demands of them.
To the Red, who just wants results and wants them…. yesterday, and to the Yellow, whose basic saying is, "Don't worry, be happy!"--the cautious Green and steady Blue can be a drag. While Blues often resign themselves to tolerate the forwardness of Reds and Yellows, the Green frequently just prefer to be left alone in their office or cubical.

THE MAGICAL TECHNIQUE OF MATCHING & MIRRORING
If they are standing or sitting with their shoulders back and quite erect... do the same thing. If they use language succinctly... be succinct. Don't go on about your personal or their personal life. Match their interests. If they are interested in RESULTS, keep your conversation with them quick and to the point. This by the way, would be a Red.
BE NICE with a Blue, soften your stance, your shoulders and your voice. Allow a connection to take place first by asking them how their day or their family is. When discussing an area of concern, simply give them illustrative and/or descriptive information with an example of how you'd like it to be. They are driven by knowledge and their key desire is to figure it out so they can do it well and be of service to you. Appreciate that!
Think SYSTEMS with a Green... talk systems and talk fast! They already see the "big picture" so what they are interested in is the mental process of designing the most efficient way to get there. And what about the fun loving, people oriented Yellows!?! OPEN UP and put a big old smile on your face…. then pull up a chair and sit down. Why? Because it's going to be awhile! They will want to connect with you for at least 15-20 minutes before getting down to business. Once down to business though watch out, because they are about to razzle dazzle you with their most creative and innovative ideas to help make that event you are coordinating a spectacular.

test zu finden auf:


http://www.makeadifference.com/TYG/CC201.php

the mirror thing :)

by max .. riethmüller

An example from my own experience would be feeling a sense of disapproval at something someone is coming forth with, and then someone unrelated might mention something true about me that I was unaware of, then I suddenly realise that it's the same thing that I so righteously disaprove of in others.

A positive example might be feeling a sense of frustration that I cannot rally the strength that I see others wield with ease, only to have a close friend praise me for having that self same attribute.

A more subtle example:  A flock of beautiful birds being harrased by noisy miners, reflecting a situation I am under going within my work life (my beautiful ideas being picked off by aggressive ladder climbing collegues).  Or, Listening to the radio while deep in thought, and realising that the words of a song that has just started, is speaking precisely to the situation I am pondering.

Even more subtly, it could be said that every facet of the outside world is reflecting some aspect of self.  The colours of the sky, the sounds in the air, the shapes in forms in the architecture around us, the angry person yelling at their kid, the young man opening a door for an elderly woman. 

It's not always clear how to relate all these phenomenon to self.  And indeed, why bother?  90% of it is pragmatic in nature.  Afterall, do you check every part of your body before you go for a walk, or do you checking the stitching on your clothes before you dress? 

The stuff that is helpful spiritually, is the stuff that stands out.  For example if we continue to be bombarded by something from outside that unsettles us, then we can be sure it is reflecting some internal imbalance or disruption.  Resolve the internal balance (I find acceptance a strong tool here), and the external disruption dissolves magically.

the neutral heart technique

Even after all this time, the Sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.
—Hafiz
Dear Veronika,
As practitioners of the six heart virtues, our focus is on the expression of appreciation, compassion, forgiveness, humility, valor, and understanding. Sometimes, though, the outflow is diminished or our attention wanders and we can find ourselves depleted and discouraged, unable to express or radiate the virtues within us with vitality and genuineness.
When you feel a bit drained or dispirited, often it is because you feel that the balance between the inflow of love, appreciation, understanding, and forgiveness does not measure up to your outflow. In other words, what we give out to our family, friends, work associates and strangers, seems to be more—in some cases, far more—than what we get in return.
This perception can rapidly lead to discouragement; a sense that life is not working or is even unfair and unresponsive to our practice of the six heart virtues. There is a technique called the Neutral Heart that is an excellent method to refresh and balance your energy system especially when the feelings of depletion and discouragement overtake your expression of the heart virtues in your daily life.
Within the energetic heart is a place of neutral feelings; a place where energy-draining perceptions can shift and transform with a gentle nudge. It may seem paradoxical, but neutrality is the pivot of transformation. It is here that you can take the stubborn, concretized energetic densities that have become rooted in your personality, and realign them with the advanced energetics of the six heart virtues.
While these densities are familiar to you, they can operate as obstacles to the new patterns and new energies that are coming to the planet and potentially to each of us individually, especially as practitioners of the six heart virtues. These densities are like plaque to the energetic grid that surrounds you, restricting the flow of intuition and creating a dissonance to the incoming cosmic rays, which makes it harder for you to operate in the state of Oneness and accelerated virtuous cycles that are the hallmark of these new energies.
Between now and 2012 our solar system is undergoing a migratory orbit that will take it within a current of empowering rays or cosmic frequencies that issue from the center of the Milky Way galaxy. It is recommended that you devote a portion of your time to realign the blockages or densities within your energetic body during this time in order to align yourself to these new energies. Doing so will empower you to embody these frequencies and transmit them with greater potency.
The Neutral Heart technique has three steps, which are designed to help you transform the stubborn energetic densities that have concretized in your energetic field and align them to the new energy-flow in which you are learning to live.
Step One: The Smiling Heart
The first step is to center yourself in your heart by imagining that your heart area is smiling. If you imagine it is smiling outward it opens the door of neutrality into which you can bring densities you wish to transform and realign.
It is essential that your heart-smile expresses the genuine quality of the neutral heart, which is contemplative, with deep chords of intuitive knowing and the soft hush of divine love. This is the attitude that you can hold in your heart area. When you settle into this attitude, you are ready for the second step.
Step Two: Invite the Densities Inside
Next you invite these stubborn energetic densities into your neutral heart. For example, suppose you are feeling discouraged, and you have identified its source as feeling unappreciated at work. The feeling of discouragement is only wearing a new face, the true energy of discouragement has been with you all of your life. When you were an infant you were discouraged when your mother went away from you. As a toddler, when you did not get your way. As a child, when you were scolded. As a teenager, when you were put down by your peers. As an adult, when you were unappreciated for your contributions.
This energy signature of discouragement, within your energetic field, is calcified every time you feel it, regardless of what the temporary source may be. Most of us have a strong energetic density around this feeling of discouragement. This is what you invite into the neutral heart, not the temporary disguise that discouragement is wearing today or yesterday, but rather the collective of discouragement that is the foundational energy for this feeling.
Each of the emotions that cause depletion of energy, creativity, intuition, mental acuity, and sense of well being can become calcified to the point that they interfere with your energetic field and its connection to the Oneness we all share. The negative emotions, like anger, envy, depression, chronic anxiety, and hopelessness, are like fundamental chords that we strike in our energetic field every time we feel them, and these chords resonate and activate other negative emotions, which can be our ruin.
Inviting these densities inside our neutral heart requires that we invite the fundamental chords. Here's what I mean. Imagine that anger is a chord that is played with three fingers. Each time you feel anger; these three fingers strike the chord. The chord resonates throughout your energetic field. It finds sympathetic chords that resonate with it and together they form a dissonance within your energetic field.
The fundamental chord is triggered by the three fingers, and what are the three fingers? They are the day-to-day events and experiences that strike the chord. And every time the chord is struck, it is welded tighter to your energetic field and your field becomes a little more rigid and less adaptive to the new energies of the six heart virtues.
Negative emotions, at their fundamental level, are packages of history like balls made out of rubber bands. It is to these "packages" that you extend the invitation, and by inviting them into the neutral heart, you are, in a sense, awakening them to their pointlessness in your present reality. In this step you are not trying to force them to change or remove them, but rather you are allowing them to feel the new perspective and energy field you are assembling.
You are creating a new discernment process with this approach, and this new process is "heard" by all parts of your system, including your energetic densities at their most fundamental level. You are accessing the intuitive guidance of your heart and asking it to realign the energetic blockages or stubborn energies that create the sense of imbalance, discouragement, and depletion that you feel. It is a gentle reminder to these old behaviors and stubborn energies that change is stirring and that they need to be aware of this change and either align to it or let go.
Step Three: Marinate with Conviction
The final step is to let these negative emotions "marinate" in the neutral space of your heart. Imagine these obstinate energies are like rigid knots when they enter your heart, and as they soak in the wisdom of its neutrality, they loosen up and begin to relax as they begin to understand your new plan. They do not magically disappear, but rather as they relax they choose to realign to the energetic grid you are consciously engineering.
What is stubborn and unwanted within you is not something you want to evict like an unwanted tenant or exorcise like a demon; rather it is a part of you that has served you in the past, and once aligned to your new plan, can continue to serve you in the future. Nonetheless, your heart—within the wisdom of its neutrality—entrains these stubborn energies to its plan and you must feel the certainty of this plan. Step three is focused on this certainty because it is in the crucible of conviction that old energies can realign and entrain to your new energetic grid.
The six heart virtues are the instruments we use to re-engineer the energy grid upon which we live. The old densities that exist in all of us are based on the history of our belief system and experiential world. In a sense, they are the bridge we crossed over to get to where we are in this very moment, but our learning must be constantly realigning itself to our present comprehension—our present learning needs. The Neutral Heart technique helps our historical learning and the behaviors and attitudes that arise from them to have less resonance and therefore cause less dissonance within our energetic field.
The Neutral Heart technique can be used for any set of emotional disturbances or imbalances, and it is ideal as a method of discernment for decision making; regaining your sense of empowerment; rebalancing your energetic field, or rejuvenating your attitudinal buoyancy.
As with any technique, the Neutral Heart is a framework. You can experiment with it, add your own ideas to it, and modify it to your own personality. If you find a better way to perform the steps in the process that helps you dial-in to the core purpose of the technique, then feel free to utilize these adjustments.
The Neutral Heart technique is not a universal remedy for emotional ills. Everyone feels depleted and discouraged from time-to-time. I'm not suggesting that if you practice this technique you will be free of these feelings, but rather if you apply it when you do feel these negative emotions, it will accelerate your movement through them, and you will feel that your energetic system has been refreshed and is able to take on the next challenge of life with greater ease and grace.
You do not need to practice the Neutral Heart technique in private or in a quiet room free of distractions. When you become adept with the technique you can use it at any time and in any place. It only takes a minute or two. Think of it like an energetic body maintenance program, not unlike the grooming you provide your physical body each time you take a shower or brush your teeth.
Your energetic (quantum) body is the connection you have to the universe of Oneness and the creative empowerment of virtuous cycles. Whatever care and maintenance you provide it returns a hundred-fold. It's truly one of your best investments.
From my world to yours,
James

http://eventtemples.com/

victim or master?

:
each action that you repeat, or each thought – because thought is also a subtle action in the mind – becomes more and more powerful. Then you are in the grip of it. Then you are imprisoned in the habit. Then you live the life of an imprisoned man, a slave. And the imprisonment is very subtle: it is of your habits and conditioning and the actions that you have done. It is all around your body and you are entangled in it, but you go on thinking and befooling yourself that you are doing it. When you get angry, you think you are doing it. You rationalize it and you say that the situation demanded it: “I had to be angry, otherwise the child would go astray; if I were not angry then things would go wrong, then the office would be in a chaos, then servants won’t listen; I had to be angry to manage things, to discipline the child. To put the wife in her right place I had to be angry.” These are rationalizations. That’s how your ego goes on thinking that you are still the boss, but you are not. Anger comes out of old patterns, out of the past. And when anger comes you try to find an excuse for it.
but through these rationalisations you do not feel yourself a victim but a master

and that*s a pity ....